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The paradox of increasing 'belonging' and loosening attachment

Posted on Monday, June 10th, 2013 at 12:28 am

One of the wonders of leaving home and going off to see the world - or at least a few new corners of the world - is that the joy of discovering the new is set against the loosening of attachment to the familiar. I'm thinking here of attachment to one's home and the possessions that fill it; attachment to the routinised ways of living each day and attachment to the clothes, foods and practices of one's culture, families and friends.


It has been interesting to reveal a possible source of another stream of conditioning (predisposition to shopping) just through wearing the Indian female outfit!

And what of the increased sense of 'belonging'? Belonging to the human community and the community of all living beings.

Invited by a group of Tibetans to squash into a little gap of mattress on the floor of the temple where the Dalai Lama is giving an initiation of 1,000 Armed Chenrezig - the embodiment of compassion and the wisdom of emptiness of independent existence - to a huge throng of men, women and children drawn to him from all over the world, how can I feel other than at one with this many-faceted manifestation of life?

Crowds start gathering for Dalai Lama teaching

Crowds start gathering for Dalai Lama teaching

What a privilege to be receiving teaching and an empowerment from the Dalai Lama in his home town of McCloud Ganj/Dharamsala, as I sit on the floor amongst the many nuns, monks, Tibetans, Indians and other people from the nations of the world! How wonderful to hear him honouring and directing the Indians who have invited him to give this teaching as he reminds them of their history of religious tolerance and urges them - and all of us - to always remember that there are many spiritual paths and traditions, all leading to the same place of wisdom and compassion.

Buddha at D.LamaTemple

The tears fall as I feel the power of his transmission of compassion and wisdom. And all around me I feel the devotion and mantras from thousands of beings, all pressed together  for this special occasion. Here, the superficial differences of language and appearance fade into insignificance and only the loving kindness and acceptance of those around me is felt. Here I belong. There is no me and no you. Just life manifesting!

Looking around at the sea of many-coloured beings, I see the many distinctive waves of the ocean, manifesting briefly and also one with the ocean.

Warm wishes from McCloud Ganj,


PS: You may like to read a more extensive and lively expression of some of our experiences in McCloud Ganj, described  here  by Alan.

Gompa and mass of flags below the Dalai Lama's residence and temple

Gompa and mass of flags below the Dalai Lama's residence and temple

4 responses to “The paradox of increasing 'belonging' and loosening attachment”

  1. Caroline says:

    Jacqui, thank you for this wonderful sharing... an endless teaching which I receive with gratitude.

    with love

  2. Robin says:

    Dearest Jacqui
    Thank you for the wonderful image
    I was immediately transported to where you are -thanks
    i can feel the tears/emotion a special human gift and the amazing at-onement how extraordinary. yes we can all be there / here and feel the gift.
    Lotsa Love n Light
    Robin Lee

    • Jacqui says:

      Many thanks, Robin, for your reaction to my post and photos. It is always so encouraging and pleasing to hear that one has connected. Thinking of you with lots of love, jacqui

  3. Wiliam McILwain says:

    Hi Jacqui, as I was reading your article I was being constantly bombarded with pop-up adverts for things I neither asked for or wanted.Is this an attempt at the new norm for humanity? I know I don't feel attached to my lifestyle, but at times can feel trapped by it. The Buddha's teaching on impermanence is pertinent here in that clinging to or thirsting for anything is suffering, dare I say even Nirvana on earth. Having said that I do think I would prefer to be attached to a community of like minded people living in harmony with one objective, the betterment of their fellow travellers, than to feel trapped in a profit driven society. Love your articles and if envy is a sin well then call me a sinner!

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